Being in a relationship especially one which is filled with love can be a wonderful thing, especially where both parties have that amount of affection for each other. But it could quickly change and turn sour when certain actions begin to take place, questioning the presence of love in the place.
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Now, you could be all lovey-dovey with someone, or you could see a couple being all lovey-dovey, and then when next you see them after a couple of times, you sense or get informed that they might have ended things. You are left wondering, what may have gone wrong? How do couples who love each other end up splitting so quickly?
A plethora of reasons could be the cause of breakups in relationships. There could be lies, deceit, incompatibility, ill feelings, and so on. Among all these, one of the major causes could be acts of selfishness that could end up ruining the relationship, which we shall be looking at.
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Getting selfish is one of the easiest flaws to come in contact with in a relationship. Owing to how innocent it could be from the start, you may not actually know that you have completely been lost in your selfish actions until it has gotten to a point where you see your relationship getting ruined by it.
Most people in relationships fail to see the signs, which is why we shall be enumerating five simple selfish acts which are going to ruin your relationship. We call them ‘simple’ because as we stated earlier, they start out as innocent actions and gradually become what you see of them recently.
1. Putting your sexual pleasures ahead of your partners’.
This has become a recurrent reason why most people quit their relationships. Most marriages start to collapse the minute when one partner is more focused on their pleasures than that of the other partner. What this does is that it may instantly lead to the collapse of your relationship, but it would end up forcing the other partner to seek pleasure somewhere else, which could then directly affect the relationship, leading to its collapse.
2. Opting to do things privately.
When you fully know that you and your partner enjoy doing things together, and you decide to do those things alone, for one personal reason or the other, you have completely set yourself up for ruining your relationship. Take for instance, if you and your partner enjoy watching a particular series, and you decide to see a couple of new episodes without them repeatedly, it may look innocent and not worth the problem, but it definitely sends the message that you may actually enjoy doing these things personally, hence no need for them to join you with it.
3. Using up limited resources without considering your partner.
As simple as using up the last few drops of lotion without thinking about whether or not your partner has taken any or if they would want to share or use it, is one of the grounds that could lead to you losing out on a wonderful relationship. This goes on to include gas in the car, minutes on the phone, the last bowl of ice cream, available groceries, and so on.
4. Taking collective action without seeking their opinion.
Nothing causes more alarming issues than acting on behalf of your partner without their input. It shows a clear disregard for their opinion and interests. When you make such unilateral decisions without thinking about your partner’s input, or you thought your opinion is a better one than theirs, it not only insults their person but can definitely lead to the end of your relationship with them.
5. Lying.
This, my friend, is one selfish act that could almost instantly end a relationship depending on the lie or what constitutes it. When you tell a lie, you do that to protect your interest solely without thinking about the other party. When you go around sleeping with other people, thereby cheating on your partner, you are not presently looking out for their interest too, but yours alone; your pleasure and your satisfaction. This is one ground that can completely destroy a relationship, taking the good memories with it.
The thing with these selfish acts and others like it is that it feels like they are innocent and could be overlooked, or that when a partner complains about them, such a partner is simply being overbearing. But the fact still remains that for you to have a pleasant relationship, you should endeavour to see that no selfish acts exist in it.
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