From the moment he or she goes down on one knee with the ring in the case to say those lovely words to signal a marriage interest, there are key things you have to consider. Not just for the person being proposed to, but the one on his or her knee; there are certain pointers you should look out for.
Love is beautiful, and it gets even sweeter with the right person. Striking a relationship based on this affection makes it even better. However, as things may continue to progress and if the arrow points towards weddings and happy marriages, which is completely awesome, there are things you have to take note of before you proceed to say YES to any proposal.
While love is a matter of the heart, you must call on your brains for this one. Based on gathered data in the United States, 73% of divorces are a result of a lack of commitment and 41% occur as a result of a lack of preparation for marriage. So you can see that love could fade which could crash your marriage and make you part of the statistics. Also, your lack of adequate preparation before marriage could also give you the same end result, which is why you have to be adequately prepared.
The dilemma is knowing what you have to do and doing it. It gets frustrating if you see people try out these methods and have negative results. This is why we shall be offering 5 important things you have to look out for before you say YES and start planning for the wedding and eventually your marriage.
Friendship.
The beauty of every relationship is the friendship that exists. A lot of married couples have explained on various occasions that the love they had went cold at some point but what sustained their marriage was their friendship. An adage says “marry your friend”, which indicates that where you intend to get married, look out for a partner who not only loves you but is also a friend.
Empathy & Compassion.
I had a friend who told me that she broke up with a man that wanted to marry her after she saw how the man rudely treated a waitress that was serving them. You have to ensure that your partner does not lack empathy and compassion, because it is a virtue that would ensure that they treat you right at all times.
Responsible.
Going into a marriage would require that you both take up duties and responsibilities. If your partner is irresponsible, they would definitely affect the productivity and growth of the household. If you have an irresponsible partner, I strongly suggest having a talk with him or her, but if it does not work out, then you may have to call it quits regrettably.
Less Materialistic.
Being too obsessed with material things could be disastrous and a sure path to financial ruin. If you have a partner who is too attached to clothing, jewellery, cars etc.,then I suggest you seek assistance to curb this and where assistance fails, kindly consider taking a walk.
Think Of Forever.
When you get married, you promise to be together forever, through thick or thin. The weight of this promise is probably while you have some “work” people calling for the rites to be amended. Nevertheless, the last of the 5 things you have to consider before saying YES to weddings or marriages respectively is that this is different from other relationships as it lasts forever. In that same vein, if the person kneeling before you with a ring in hand is not someone you wish to spend forever with, kindly take a walk and not commit yourself to a relationship that could end on a sad note
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